66.ma mostra del cinema

LE INTERVISTE 2009

Venezia, 02/12 settembre 2009

 

Claude e Nathan MILLER

 

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I'M GLAD THAT MY MATHER IS ALIVE


KINEMATRIX Starting off, I would like to ask why you have decided to make the problem of adoption the main issue of your movie.

Claude MILLER I believe I’ve been interested in this field from my start in this business and especially in the relations between parents and children. I’ve always believed that it’s the children who manage their parents and not the opposite. Maybe I’ve also been interested in adoption as, like I think you know, this story that I present in my latest movie really happened. I believe in this movie I talk about all the things I always do in my films. But this time I was also interested in the great sorrow this situation must have provoked.

So I understand the problem of adoption is just particularly important and interesting for you. Now, while watching I’m happy that my mother is alive I was constantly thinking of how much it has in common with Mike Leigh’s movie Secrets and Lies.


CM Ohh yes, yes, of course. I saw this movie some time ago cause it’s not a new release. It has indeed the same storyline, there’s a daughter who’s looking for her biological mother, yes, you’re right. And what’s even more, the daughter is black while the mother’s white! Definitely, I agree with you, there’s a slight similarity between these movies.

Actually, I think both stories have a lot in common. In each the biological mother belongs to the lower class, she hasn’t achieved much in her life and the way she is can be something of a disappointment for her children. But there’s also an important difference: in Leigh’s movie the daughter accepts her mother while Thomas, your character, doesn’t accept his.

Nathan MILLER Let’s not forget that there’s also the difference of sexes, our character is a man. Maybe this is why it’s much more complicated for him as he knows that she’s his biological mother but, at the same time, she’s just a young woman. Yes, she’s also his mother but he hadn’t seen her for years now. It’s worth recalling that when he meets a girl of his age and she invites him out he says: “I’m with somebody else” and, of course, we know that it’s his mother he has on his mind.

I think it was a very interesting moment, indeed. I believe he doesn’t accept his mother since she has nothing to do with the myth of the mother- a loving and caring one, who’s always there for her children, etc. Would you say that your movie is to some extend a kind of rebellion against this common idea of mother and maternity?

NM Well, of course he was extremely disappointed with her as she wasn’t the way he had always imagined or wanted her to be. The last time he saw her he was about five and she was young, pretty, he loved her much and she kept him in her arms, etc. When he finally finds her he is disappointed. Also he realizes there has been a kind of replacement as there is an eight-year-old boy, her son. Anyway, despite his disappointment, he visits her again and again. And at one moment he says to her: “I feel nothing when I call you mom, completely nothing. Getting to know you hasn’t been interesting at all”. Then he starts asking her all these questions, such as : why me, why did you leave me, who is my father, all these questions that she doesn’t want to or even can’t answer.

CM I’ve just wanted to say that what’s formidable in this story is that...well, when you live with your parents, when you have real parents you have all the possible ways and will to get used to them, to the way they are. Thomas, he didn’t know his mother, so he created an ideal. Understand me well, normally you have all the time in the world to get used to and accept your parents, you manage to come to a compromise with the ideal and the reality, right? Since he didn’t know her try to imagine the great picture of her he must have had in his head.
 

Yes, I can imagine. So, could we suppose that it’s because she’s not like a perfect mother why he wants to kill her ? Or is it that he just wants to punish her for having abandoned him when he was a child? What do you think is the real reason of his act?

CM As for me it was to some point a burst of anger, of fury, but it’s impossible to understand this amount and diversion of feelings he must have felt inside and which leaded to this explosion.

And why does this attempt of killing the mother take place at the time when almost everything seems getting better between them, when he visits her on a daily basis, when they get along pretty well ?

NM Before the moment of killing her he gets to know that she’s gonna keep the other boy, the other son, since she has won the process, and also in the previous scene he’s in a hospital visiting his father who has cracked completely and he sees that on one hand there’s his family who has always loved him and who he has always loved as well and which has been totally destroyed, and on the other hand there’s his biological mother who turned out to be not interesting at all and who disappointed him. So, speaking about the reasons I guess this could be it. But there’s no logic at all in his act, what he does is definitely not logical and there’s no point in trying to find its sense. Of course that was also this frustration that he must have felt that pushed him to do that, I believe. I was really confused about how to film this scene when he’s trying to kill her as I didn’t have a precise answer why he’s doing it, I knew nothing. So I decided to present it as if he wanted to have sex with her, and that’s exactly what I said to the actor, to Vincent- try to perform it as if you wanted to make love to her, intensely and brutally. But, anyway, there are million of reasons: frustration, disappointment, all those things that Claude has mentioned and also there is this pulsation: he sees his mother who’s coming in to the kitchen to make some breakfast, he’s alone with her, “goodbye, lovers”- her son says while leaving to school, so there is this kind of tension, this specific climate and then the unexpected happens.

And when he finds the photos, the photos of her, half naked, he…well, he doesn’t want to see them, right?

NM Of course, it is that this special feeling he has for her isn’t at all conscious ; there’s no desire, it’s not that he wants consciously to make love to his mother, neither does she, but there is a special tension between them. She seems not to notice that Thomas is in fact her son, she treats him as a nice guy, she thinks he’s handsome, she flatters him, and her behavior and attitude create a truly unbearable climate for Thomas

CM Moreover, he can no longer stand the fact that the way his mother is doesn’t correspond with any version of a mother that he could ever imagine. Also he can’t accept this kind of feeling that he starts to feel. So he wants to erase this picture, erase this image of a mother, as if it had never existed.

NM Also, I believe he chose to kill her with a knife without a reason. He might have tried to kill her in any other way, he might have pushed her off the balcony, strangle her or anything. Instead, he penetrated her with a knife, so I don’t think it was by chance. Of course it doesn’t explain anything, it doesn’t say why he attempted to kill her but it’s certainly not insignificant

Personally, I find your movie interesting as unlike in Leigh’s movie, where Hortense, the main character, accepts her mother the way she is and doesn’t judge her at all, your movie shows the impossibility of acceptance, which maybe is even more truthful. Anyway, do you think we could consider the act of killing as an act of love, either in a psychological or sexual, physical way?

NM Well, I wouldn’t say so… no, definitely not. Actually, I wouldn’t want anyone to think this way

So, the conclusion is that he kills her since he can’t accept her, am I right?

CM He couldn’t accept her and also there was this disillusion which is closely related to becoming an adult. Cause what does it mean, becoming an adult? You know, when one is a child, he’s surrounded by mythologies of this, of that, he has a lot of dreams which he doesn’t always fulfill. So I see this act of murdering as a impossibility of accepting the fact that the reality has nothing to do with the myth.

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And, Claude, I must admit that this movie is a bit shocking, I was really devastated when I was watching the scene of the killing. Would you say that you used to make lighter movies, less dramatic, such as, let’s say, La petite Lili?

CM My idea was that you got touched by what’s going on the screen. I didn’t want you to just forget it after the movie ends but to keep it in mind. But speaking about La petit Lili, this is not a comedy, it’s not a comedy at all. As you may know some time ago I made Secret and it’s definitely a drama. So, no, I wouldn’t say that I have recently changed my style and my field, that from a director or let’s say lighter movies I turn into drama maker.

And how was the cooperation going between you two while making the movie ?

NM Of course before starting we had a lot of questions in our minds abort how to organize it all, how to divide work between us, etc. I’ve worked with Claude for many years but never as a second director. So we were wondering how to make a movie together. Finally, we decided, generally speaking, that Claude would handle the actors’ performance and I’d focus on how to film it. And then we realized that what’s good in theory doesn’t always work in practice.(…) there were constant problems with passing information between us. I would give some hints to an actor and then Claude would receive it like some time after. Or Claude would give an information to our technician and I would get it much too late. So, in fact, we would waste too much time on collecting all the information and actually it was a mess. Then after some time working in such bad conditions Claude took me aside and he said: “it won’t work like this. You will do it all by yourself.” The reason he decided so was to keep the integrity of the whole project. He wanted me to act like Salomon, you know, to be in charge. So, from then on we would consult everything just with each other, I mean if I had some indications I was to give them right to Claude and Claude would talk to nobody but me. And this is how it went on.

Well, I believe it’s a good cooperation technique and the result, your latest movie, only confirms it. Ok, so thank you for such an interesting analysis of your film and for the interview.


CM, NM Thank you very much.
 

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